One of the most fundamental techniques you have to know about if you want to attract someone into your life. These are 6 tricks to make yourself more attractive.
Keep an open body language
When you first meet a stranger especially a cute girl. It is very important for you to convey that you’re not a threat if you walk up to her with a serious face with your hands in your pockets and she’s probably going to be scared. So make sure you have a smile on your face.
The other thing is to have open palms. People instinctively put their hands up with their palms out when they want to show that they have surrendered and this is because of a reason when we show our palms subconsciously, we are telling people that we have nothing to hide. We have no weapons and we aren’t a threat this puts people at ease and it’ll allow you to get your foot in the door with a girl that you’ve been talking to. While talking to her just keep your palms open.
Have a great posture
Nothing is more unattractive than a guy who’s slouched over all the time. Pull your shoulders back keep your chin up and have your back straight. A really helpful way of having great posture is to imagine that you have a string above your head and somebody was pulling on it keeping your spine and neck straight. Also, you need to get rid of your bad posture habits this means not using your laptop while you’re in your bed on your back eating Cheetos. If you’re using a computer lot make sure to take breaks every hour or so just to do some stretches and realign your posture.
A great exercise that we would recommend for getting a great posture our deadlifts. just make your back muscles stronger and these muscles will pull your shoulders back and give you the body language of alpha while also making you stronger. Another exercise that you can try is to stand up against a wall with your body touching the wall and put your hands back on the wall. Make sure that your elbows are connected on the wall and then move your arms up and down while making sure that your elbows stay connected to make sure to really squeeze your back muscles while you’re doing this. We suggest 10 reps of these for 3 sets every day until your posture improves.
Pay attention to your feet
Your feet, while you’re talking to someone, can weigh a lot about your intentions. If you’re talking to a girl you just met and both your feet are pointed directly at her, this can also make her feel like you’re coming on too strong. So be strategic with how you position your feet. If you’re meeting someone for the first time then it’s best that you keep a 45 degree angle with your feet as if you were ready to leave at any moment. Later as you get to know someone you could also try squaring up to earth with your feet directly and see how she responds back. If she backs up a little like she’s getting intimidated you know you should back off a bit but if she seems comfortable or maybe even comes closer to you and you know that she’s interested.
Don’t be a spaz
This is more of a general tip on how you should conduct yourself. If you’re all over the place moving your arms everywhere running to everything and in general just being a clown, then you’re not going to be perceived as being very attractive. Funny maybe attractive nope. Don’t be in a rush. Breathe deeply meditation helps a lot with this as it will ground you and help you be more present in the present moment.
Here’s a mindset that you really need to have you are enough you don’t need to impress anyone. You are here to have fun. You are confident and secure about who you are. Just say this in your head again and again until you actually believe it. It’s called an affirmation.
Fake it until you make it. When you keep this mindset your body language is automatically going to reflect your thoughts. If you’re thinking about your mortgage or your work problems or you seem to be very distracted then your body language is obviously going to reflect that. It’s not very attractive. So be present and breathe at the moment and then your body will relax and be at ease and that will show confidence.
The importance of being “Inauthentic”
A lot of you might be thinking that why should we have to put in all of this effort to understand body language. We mean shouldn’t we just be who we are? What’s the point of learning attractive body language anyway. So I want to tell you about why you need to learn to be inauthentic with your body language sometimes if you want to convey something important.
Imagine that you have the most important message in the world that everyone needs to hear but you go onstage and your voice is very low and you’re all nervous and the words don’t come out right and you stood all hunched up with your hands in your pocket and nobody paid attention to you its spite of having a strong message you failed because you didn’t know about body language.
In the same way imagine that the cute girl you’re going to approach is going to be the girl you’re meant to be with not only that imagine that you’re the best guy for her, wouldn’t it be a shame if you don’t want able to get together just because you wouldn’t know how to present yourself properly. Attractive body language is like a huge billboard that says that you’re attractive and trustworthy. Just changing this alone will do wonders for your social and love life. Learn to present yourself in an attractive way. If you do it for long enough what was once in authentic but become very authentic and a part of who you are and you will be infinitely more attractive.
